Men from all walks of life are entering therapy including professional footballers, cage fighters, nightclub owners, politicians, builders, CEOs, army veterans, doctors, teachers, mechanics, and religious ministers.
Men are often forced to lead and live secret lives, leaving many stuck in their heads. They carry a secret world of inner feelings which often contains hurt, sadness, fear, and shame. When these men have the courage to enter therapy, many take the risk of sharing these secrets out loud for the first time. If these secrets are handled with care and a non-judgmental attitude by the therapist, these men can move from a crippling life of silence, secrets, and emotional isolation to emotional and relational fitness.
Some men are left feeling confused when their partners struggle to accept their vulnerability and they may hear the negative refrains of, 'Man-up' or 'Grow a pair'. For men to move from their secret selves to being more emotionally open, then societal expectations will need to be challenged and changed. Men and women will need to agree to allow the other to break out of their stereotypical straitjackets and emotional restrictions that have been accepted and enforced by society.